I'm posting today a piece that's been of help to me, I always thought I understood inner child work, but lately it has taken on a different feel, a new light has been shone on it, and I'm finding it more of real value to me, rather than it just sounding like a nice concept or a visualisation to go through. The photo here is of me.
The below is from a piece written by Ann Callaghan who's range of gem essences Indigo Essences, I greatly admire and use often. The article in full is on her helpful links page at her website Indigo essences, you can find it here
" 'Inner child work’, as it’s known, aims to unlock and heal the emotional wounds that we suffered as little children. These wounds, usually unconsciously, rule the way we are in the world as adults. These wounds are behind most of our day-to-day fears, anxieties and behaviours and will remain in place until we recognize them and release them.
The more we release the fears held by the inner child, the more care free we become. We also become very sensitized to the needs of every child. We become quick to recognize what a particular child needs. Learning to love and listen to your own inner child will really help you feel happier about life in general and specifically will help you to be a better parent.
Below is an outline of what to do.
- Get yourself to a private place.
- Make sure you are warm.
- Cuddle up in a big, pink, fluffy blanket if you have one.
- Feel what you are feeling.
- Now choose some essences for yourself.
- Let yourself cry till there are no more tears left. Be unconditional with yourself.
- Remember a time when you were very little and felt the same way.
- Look for the little you in your mind’s eye. You will see her. (insert him if appropriate)
Now talk to the little child. Ask her what she felt like. Ask her what she wanted to say or do in that situation. She will tell you. Maybe she wanted to tell her parents that it hurt her very much when they left her like that. Maybe she felt very angry that they didn’t tell her the truth or understand her feelings enough to know that it would have been OK if they had prepared her for what was going to happen and reassured her that they loved her very much and would never leave her for long.
Now it’s time to repair the damage. As a child you were unable to tell your parents how you felt or what you needed. Now you can.
You become your own parent. Ask the little child what she would like to say to her parents now. Call your parents in (in your mind’s eye - it’s just as effective as having them there in the flesh). Now the little child has the opportunity to rant and rave and say everything she needs to say. Sometimes the parents will answer back and explain what was going on for them at the time.
Ask the little child what she wanted - she will tell you. Reassure her that you will always listen to her and won’t ever leave her.
When the fear and the grief have been released a feeling of calm will come over you. You will probably feel very tired and vulnerable. Look after yourself as a kind and loving parent would. Get your favourite food, snuggle up on the couch, have a long bubbly bath, whatever.
The essences will help to balance & stabilize your energy while you release the fear. You may need to change your selection as you work through the layers of pain. Listen to yourself, you will know.
As soon as the next fear becomes apparent go through the process with yourself again. Remember to be unconditional with yourself. We all have many fears. Don’t be hard on yourself or set yourself time limits to finish this work. It takes as long as it takes."
Love & light